A letter between friends

Sometimes the advice we give is the advice we need.


Life doesn't always go according to plan and so many of us beat ourselves up for not meeting our own expectations.


I normally don't share personal things that are very dear to my heart, but sometimes our best words are said to the ones we love....


A friend of mine was having a bad day and this was the letter I wrote:

I’m sorry. I know it’s rough. We all have our days and sometimes you just need to vent.

The hubby and I kind of had the same conversation this morning. I was stressing out about what I want to make of my life and how I feel like I’m running out of time because I want to have babies one day and buy a new house. He told me that I am still young and that it’s like I’m on a train going from one window to the next trying to find the answer when I should be on top of the train seeing the whole picture.

I too feel very lucky for all of the blessings I have in my life but there are many things that I would like to change. There’s nothing wrong with that! It’s good to have ambition. Too many people settle into jobs that they hate and never try for anything more...

But don’t think for one second that you have failed just because you still live at home. You are helping your Dad just by being there and it will all work out for you in time. That ten year old car is reliable and you didn’t have to go into a huge debt for it. There is nothing wrong with box dye or $15 haircuts. People get too caught up in trying to keep up with everyone else when the truth is there is nothing amazing about spending more money to get the same result. You’re just more intelligent for saving a hundred bucks.

Just look around you....the people with lots of money, do they look happy? I don’t care how many cars or houses you own, how many palates classes you go to, or what vacation you just took.... true happiness is love. I feel bad for the people that will never get to feel what you and I feel. We have a sense of clarity that they will never understand. One day they will wake up and realize that they have wasted their lives on labels and luxuries and forgot about the things that really matter. Unlike you and I, they will never experience the true love and lessons that come with the fight.

I think the hard times define who we are. Just think about it....you spend more time laying on the floor with the ones you love watching movies and eating pizza – things that are real and you will remember for the rest of your life - rather than buying the newest blackberry or spending time with people who don’t care about you but only your status.

These experiences make us much stronger and more compassionate. I feel bad for the selfish people with too much money. They will always be oblivious to the true meaning of life and love.

Hang in there! I love you!