Mommy: To be or not to be...that is the question.

My husband and I were married a little less than a year ago. We have loved each other for a very long time and we decided to start our family by vowing to love each other for the rest of our lives.

It wasn’t long after the wedding when people started asking that magic question:

“So, when are you guys going to have kids?”

At first, it kind of pissed me off. We had just got married and people were already asking this question. I felt like saying:

“What the hell is a marriage? Chopped Liver?

It’s almost as if people believe you get married just so you can have children. I don’t know where people get this kind of idea but I’m guessing it’s from the same “closed-minded world” that believes marriage is limited to a man and a woman. I believe you should be able to marry/love whomever you want....but that is a whole other subject.

One day, while at the store, a lady overheard me say that I was just married and the first thing she says:

“So, when are you going to start a family?”

I didn’t know this woman and that just struck me as such a rude thing to say to someone you don’t even know. I wanted to put her in her place so bad but I kept my composure and just said “marriage is starting a family” and went on my way.

The majority of my friends have children and I honestly believe that most of them were born to be mothers. They are great teachers and their love and admiration for their children gives them a reward and sense of happiness that nothing else could.

But, is it for me?

I have to admit, my baby maker flutters every time I see a newborn baby or pictures of my friends’ children doing something phenomenal such as taking their first steps or learning to read.

Children are beautiful.  

They have such a wonderful imagination, a charming innocence and they smell like heaven.

I just have this dream of doing BIG things. Maybe own a business that makes a difference somehow or successfully operate an organization that saves the world a little at a time. Does that mean that being a mother is out of the question? I don’t know...maybe? Can you do it all? Possibly...      

If I don’t have children, will I regret it later on in life? Who knows?

We still have plenty of time to consider the options. We are in no hurry because we love our life the way it is right now and there is so much we want to do before we have babies.

Seeing as I married the extraordinary man that I did, I feel like it would be a shame not to. He would make such an amazing father and together we could teach our children so much.

I believe my husband and I as parents would start out looking a bit like the movie “Away We Go". That movie reminds me so much of us.

We are good people and our future is filled with endless possibilities. If there is a way to have it all....then I will find it! In the mean time it feels good to get these feelings off my chest.

For anyone who has not seen the movie "Away We Go", I have attached the movie trailer below. This movie is a must see for sure!